Hello everyone,
I had written this blog a few months ago but I didn’t feel like publishing it. Somehow it felt incomplete. It went through many edits and today even though I feel It is still not complete, I felt it needs to be out there. And I always listen to my intuition. 😀
The 20 most important Lessons we need to learn or traumas we need to heal on our life path journey. Not all may apply to everyone because we are all on a unique life and soul journey, so take what resonates and leave the rest.
(I will not go very deeply into them in this blog, only a small explanation. We will address them more deeply in future blogs)
1. Fear of abandonment : We may carry very deep fears of abandonment from past relationships, parents or past lives, and we need to heal that pain. Maybe our parents were unavailable in childhood or our lover abandoned us in a previous or in this life. This fear stops us from investing deeply in relationships and we keep having superficial relationships, so that we won’t have to go through that pain again.
2. Fear of Rejection: We have self worth issue and feel we are not good enough for others. This comes from being rejected by parents or someone close to us when we were young and it has left a deep scar in our hearts. We are always scared people will reject us and hence we mostly end up rejecting people first.
3. Addiction: There have been times in our life when the pain we felt was unbearable. As a coping mechanism, to numb that pain and ourselves we become addicted to work, sex, can food, substance, etc. But the only way out is to face the pain and heal it so that we get out of those cycles of addiction.
4. Open to receiving : We have always been givers because we know what it is to not have. But unfortunately, we don’t know how to receive equally. We need to learn that as well, we need to learn to accept love, care, help and support from our friends and the people around us and not feel guilty about it.
5. Mother wounds : Our mother may have hurt us or not been there for us or not understood our pain when we were a child and needed her the most. This may have caused a lot of pain and detachment within us. But we need to Understand that we chose our mother and she is our biggest guru in helping us learn the lessons of life and heal this wound.
6. Father wounds : Our father may have not been there for us when we needed to feel safe and secure as a child causing a lot of insecurity and feelings of lack in our psyche. But we need to understand that we are always safe and secure and the universe is always protecting us and will always provide for us abundantly.
7. Religious beliefs : We need to shed our religious dogmas understanding they were created by humans to instil fear and a feeling of division in the masses. This just gives rise to more hate and instability in the world. We need to become more spiritual and go within and follow our heart/soul.
8. Mental blocks : We need to work on our family/societal conditioning and beliefs.
Try to know and understand what beliefs and conditioning are blocking us… like men should not cry/women should not speak openly/fair skin is good, etc
Whose beliefs are these anyway?
9. Speaking our truth : We need to understand that we are each different and unique than others and we see and think differently and need to speak our truth without fear of being judged or rejected. We have not been sent to conform to the rules, but rather to show the world how things can be done differently
10. Trusting our intuition : We need to believe in ourselves more and trust what the universe is speaking to us through our intuition. Once we start believing in ourselves, we wouldn’t feel so helpless, hopeless and stuck in life.
11. Not judging others journey : When we understand that everyone’s job/life path/soul journey is their own choice and their choices and journeys are equally important and right for them, we will not judge or interfere in it.
12. Seeing life from a bigger perspective : Everything is come to teach us a lesson and make us strong so it is imp to look at the lessons, rather than the problems and challenges. See things from a higher perspective rather than getting attached due to ego, gets you out of the victim mentality and makes you feel empowered.
13. Connection to divine : We need to understand and believe that we are all divine beings and we have the power to create whatever life we want.
We are not puppets or victims, we are more powerful than we are allowed to believe. We just need to claim that power.
14. Open to trusting: Don’t let your pain and hurts stop you from trusting people and loving again, No one can harm you unless the universe is trying to teach you a new lesson or there is karma to be settled between you two. No two people or situations are same. So give life a second chance.
15. Self Worth : This is 1 of the biggest challenges everyone faces. Don’t judge yourself based on others opinions or your own past mistakes. We are humans and will keep making mistakes. But we need to accept them and correct them and move on, not remain stuck in them. Know you are worthy of the best life and the best love and the choice is always yours.
16. Unconditional love: This is the ultimate and hardest lesson, you are come to learn. When we can accept ourselves and forgive ourselves fully, we develop unconditional love for our self. When we can accept others and forgive others fully we will develop unconditional love for everyone around us
17. Self-Love: Believe you deserve as much love as anybody else. Give your self the love you expect from others. Putting your own mental, emotional, financial and physical health on 1st priority is not selfish, as society taught us and is the most important lesson we need to learn. Remember you can only give from a full cup, so fill your cup first.
18. Acceptance : Replace expectations from others with acceptance. When we don’t expect anything then everything we receive becomes a beautiful gift. And your life will be filled with appreciation and gratitude for the gifts you receive.
19. Don’t taking any thing personally : Remember everyone is going through life’s challenges themselves and dealing with their own pain and traumas.
We are all here just to help each other clear karma and teach our soul the necessary lessons. Nothing is personal. Maybe you have done worse to them in a past life, we never know. So just show gratitude and learn the lesson.
20. Trusting the journey: We need to understand that this is a long journey, not about you or another but its a journey from your head to your heart, from your ego to unconditional love. It is a journey of finding a balance between the material and spiritual world, Of understanding and learning who your are really beyond your ego, family, race, religion, country. It is about following your soul path. Healing all pains and traumas of previous and this lifetimes and rising to the divinity that you have forgotten.
I hope this blog helps you on your journey.
Lots of best wishes, love and light to you.
Smithaa M Chaturvedi,Reiki Grand Master, Life Coach, Shamanic Healer, Tarot & Angel Card Reader, Numerologist, Psychic Medium
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