Today we are all feeling anguished and pained and very much scared.
The news is filled with rape cases. and these are only the ones reported…which maybe only 10 % or less.
We all saw the Nirbhaya case and many more after that, but we still didn’t learn our lessons.
It is not just the fault of the Rapists..It is also the fault of the women and their families.
Right from the ancient ages women have always been treated in a substandard way…whether it was Sita and Draupadi in ancient times or Nirbhaya and Priyanka in the modern world…
women have always been seen as an object of pleasure, sex symbols, revenge objects and what not…
Who is to blame here?
The men? yes to some extent…but mostly women themselves.
There has been a slow poisoning process that is going on, that is gradually diminishing the self love, self confidence and self respect of women and they don’t even realize it is happening until it was too late. From Birth till death is is everywhere.
1. When the birth of a female child was not celebrated, or considered less than a male…why did we accept it?
Why didn’t we protest being women ourselves? Why did we fall into the trap of necessity/competition to have a male child?
Women even allowed a second marriage for the sake of a male child…Why? Who poisoned their psyche?
2. When women were not send to school to study and made to learn housework…why did we accept it?
Who decided women were not meant for education when the goddess of knowledge is Saraswati -a woman?
Who made this rule and poisoned our psyche making us think we are less intelligent?
3. When our right to choose a life partner were taken away..why didn’t we protest?
why did we feel the men of our family had the right to decide our fate? why did we allow marriage to be a business deal/payment for debt/means of mergers and acquisitions?
Who poisoned our minds to make us feel we were incapable of choosing the right partner? and it was our duty to sacrifice our lives for the sake of our family fortune?
4. When women were suggested to wear skimpy clothes and pose for advertisements as sex objects or do item songs …why didn’t we protest?
Why did women feel the need to expose to seduce a man? Why did they feel the need to seduce a man? Why did women start feeling that getting a certain man’s attention was an honor?
Who poisoned their minds into thinking they were just a body to be used?
5. When we are sold fairness creams, shampoos, weight loss programs, soaps,etc to make us worthy of a job or man…why didn’t we protest?
Why did we allow them to tell us we are unworthy as we are?
Who poisoned our minds with shame and guilt for being a certain colour/ weight/.etc..?
6. When women are joked about, subtly disrespecting them about being bad drivers, bad wives, too talkative, etc..
Why did we mutely accept it? Aren’t men bad drivers/bad husbands/talkative.
I see more guys gossiping on street corners than women. And the sad part is women post and forward such jokes, without even realizing the disrespect. Who poisoned our minds into thinking disrespecting jokes is OK and cool?
7. When a single/separated/widowed woman is mistreated but a similar man is respected… why did we accept it?
When did we allow our worth to get associated with the presence of a man in our life?
When did we allow them to name us inauspicious because we decided to be strong like Shakti and get out of an abusive marriage and survive on our own?
And the worst part is women are the biggest enemies of women. Instead of supporting their sister, They are the first to defame her and keep her away from family functions and rituals.
Who poisoned our minds to think it was correct and OK?
8. Indians pray to Goddess Shakti for 9 days, touch the feet of baby girls,
but mistreat, abuse and rape their own daughters and sisters …and expect to get blessings of the divine mother.
It is the most ridiculous and biggest sham we have carried on for decades. The goddess doesn’t need your penance, prayers and offerings.
If you can’t see the goddess in your own mother, sister or daughters all your prayers is useless.
Who poisoned our minds to think the goddess was in an idol and not every women on earth?
When an intelligent girl is made to sacrifice her education for a dumb brother… why didn’t we protest?
When an incapable son inherits his fathers business and property instead of a deserving daughter…why didn’t we protest?
When and educated financially independent women is asked for dowry…why didn’t we protest?
When a capable women is not given the promotion/raise…because of her gender …why didn’t we protest?
When women are touched/eve teased in buses/trains/roads/offices/etc …why didn’t we protest?
When a woman is made to do housework after a hard day in office…why didn’t we protest?
When a woman is raped by her Husband/family members in the house …why didn’t we protest?
Agreed the patriarchal laws were made by men….but why did we agree to follow them
Agree the torture was done by men….but why did women help them in it?
Agree men see women as sex objects…but why did women themselves shed their clothes for money?
Agree men disrespect women …but why did women disrespect themselves and other women around them?
All this inequality and disrespect feed into the male Psyche since childhood leads them to continue disrespecting and violating women resulting into rape in worst cases.
Whenever such a case comes to light, we get more frightened, we cover down more, the men get more chance to curb the freedom of women in the name of safety and security…
But why doesn’t it inspire us …to teach our daughters and ourselves self defense,
to teach our sons to help other women in distress.
It is not just the governments or police’s duty to keep our streets safe..it is our responsibility too.
We cant keep blaming others and brushing our hands off our duties any longer…we need to wake up.
1. Start by showing more respect to the women in your life..at home, in office, while travelling.
2. Don’t forward jokes that disrespect women.
3. Make men Share the burdens equally at home.
4. Treat your sons and daughters equally.
5. Raise your voice when you see injustice
When you treat a women with respect, you teach your sons and men around you how to treat women and you teach your daughters and women around you how women should be treated.
7000 yrs ago Sita went back into mother earth to bring everyone’s attention to the oppressive laws and societal norms of the world for women.
But 7000 yrs later we still do not see much change in the situation of the world.
India is a country where All the powers of education(Saraswati), Finance(Laxmi), discipline(Durga) and destruction(Kali) are given to women.
So WOMEN ! Please stop undermining your selves and your powers. Wake up to your true Goddess self.
Women need to give up their petty competitions/jealousies and come together as a collective, as soul sisters and support each other.
Only then will we see real Women empowerment and end of all evils and oppression of women.
Love and Light,
Smithaa M Chaturvedi
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